[The Void]
hard days go best with drinks
2007-05-31
hard days go best with drinks :)
Had a friend call me on my last few hours of work today to ask me out. Lets get some drinks hun, or something? Oh I meant what are you doing? Ha ha this is pretty much how I used to ask her out in the last two years of our relationship.
Of course, a seriously rough day at work. Granted I was able to laugh and have fun with it...still my feet ached and my back was soooo done with lifting folks in and out of bed. I was totally looking for relaxing time.
Called home to hubby and said, hey I got a date with a blonde. This is our relationship humor with eachother. So he said sounds great and send pictures. And I was off. We went to a mexican resturant and bar. Our waiter was a honey drop, I so much loved him. A bit of a lisp when he spoke, with a spanish accent and had the walk of a drag Queen. Easily, this would have been an awesome guy to laugh with. My girlfriend, still recovering from her divorce~ is out on the playing field and I so much enjoy watching her.
But something did occur to me, with nothing much in common, our friendship has become a bit more complicated than it has in the years before. But not something I am willing to let spoil this. She is a good person to me....and a major influence. Someone I hold in high respect, and seek her counsel often....very often.
I really really like her. We have been friends for two years....no wait...almost four oh my goodness. And I saw her through her divorce, her dramas and she saw me through mine. We have bonded, divided, and came back together. She is indeed one of those rare females I give a shit load of respect to with her fearless strength and love of life. Back packing through the coasts of Mexico with enough funds for the plane home and food for her daughters. They had a blast. Sent me photos, and told me of all the experiences they had there. She is older than I am, blondish, blue eyes and your perfect hourglass shape. Flatish tummy, round ass and at least a D cup. And to top it off, she is tanned and about five foot two and loves to wear v necks and tight pants with heels. How can anyone, male or female not look??
She is a friend of my husbands as well. Which automatically puts you in close family friends. Someone who likes to visit with both of us and will chat with both of us as well. We helped her move in to her new home, and get set up there. But I feel....I am that friend she will always be able to talk to.....but not one that will join her on her adventures.
While younger than her....and been through my nasty divorce and broken heart years ago....I am in a wonderful family. I have decided to move to a small town, old cottage with wood heat and a well pump. five acres, and a big dog to raise my family and take over the payments so my mother in law can spend her hard earned retirement gardening and making candles. Watching her grandchildren grow up and not worry about being a nurse anymore. Thats my life for the next what....15 years?
No traveling for months, or quitting my job on a leap of faith that something will come around. No back packing through tropical beaches for me. Well...not till I am in my forties.
I sipped my drink, quite strong sea breeze mix actually...and said out of the blue. "Not sure if its jealousy or just burn out....but I feel something is bogging me down tonight" And this is what our friendship beams......she smiled and laughed...."well girl when your kids are teenagers we are heading to the islands with your hubby and running naked drunk as skunks. Its a promise. She seems to have not given into the disinterest in me and my rather simple life I am making for myself.
What the hell did I do to win such a beautiful friend?
We talked of the times she went through when....I hate to admit it....she was the most difficult person I had the discomfort in working with. I had to really take a shit load of time to refocus...and calm down and think through my conversations with her. I had to really want to make it work. I had to really really really want to see our way through this storm. Women like her and I.....go through storms.....and few folks can weather the cruise.
So here we were, at a bar....which I never go to bars. I was getting phone numbers for her, and taking photos of my breast line for her on her cell phone for shits and giggles. We ate some nachos, and then she dropped me off.
Of course, after all....she had a phone call from one of her past dates and if anything~ she deserves a good sex night. I feel very much blessed right now. And this is sooooo much what I needed. Laughter, honesty, tangible hugs and smiles. Someone who wants my breast line on their cell phone...haha. And she is straight~ so that must mean I have a damn good breast line....hahaha
Wow...way too much sea breezes, margaritas and tequilas....friends are awesome.....
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